Tuesday, January 13, 2015

To the "I Don't Care" Girl

We are all too familiar with responding "I don't care" to simple questions.

Where do you want to eat? I don't care. Do you want me to come over? I don't care. What should we do tonight? I don't care.

I know I know, you are trying to be the chill girlfriend, the laid back co-worker, or the family member that "goes with the flow"... right?

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Here's the thing, constantly throwing around the phrase "I don't care" is the easiest way to declare yourself indifferent. It's almost like saying, "Don't worry about me, what I think, or how I feel, ever."

And people listen. They listen.

Next thing you know, no one will bother to ask for your opinion or preference. Why? Because you don't care, remember? The problem is, you actually do care, or at least you will once you realize your input is being overlooked time and time again.

I've caught myself being the "I don't care" girl. It's true, being the IDC Girl keeps you out of conflicts, keeps other people happy, and is an easy way to make friends. It is also the easiest way to lose who you are as a person.

Being an adult is about branching away from being the IDC Girl, about forming your own opinions and not being afraid to share them.

Next time "I don't care" wants to come falling out of your mouth. Stop. Think. Decide what you really want, then speak up. It's much more beneficial for you, your relationships, and your professional life, if you truly DO care and say so.

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3 comments:

  1. Love this! I can totally be that girl at times just because I don't want to seem picky. I really should speak up more!

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    1. I do the same! It's such an easy habit to fall into.

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  2. This is an ongoing theme between my boyfriend and I, usually revolving around dinner, lol.

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